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I know it’s been a really long time (5 months) since I’ve written anything on the blog, but Adonis and Adonis Lifestyle have become the core focus of my attention…

… not that I don’t like writing and producing content for you guys.

So here’s what I’m gonna do.

I’m gonna commit to writing or producing one killer post or video for you each week. This will be totally different stuff that what I produce over at Adonis Lifestyle, which is more “lifestyle” and “status” oriented.

Over here, I’m thinking about keeping it about tactics and techniques.

Little things you can do to help give you more confidence with the ladies. Things that can get you success and allow you to get out of your own damn way.

Because ultimately, that’s the real problem.

I’ve mentioned this a few times and I don’t know if I’ve said it here or not, but the main difference between me and you is that we BELIEVE different things:

1. I believe that women like talking to me
2. I believe that women won’t shut me down
3. I believe that if a woman DOES shut me down, it’s very likely that she’s just not a good fit… or she’s had a bad day, etc and that it VERY LIKELY has nothing to do with me.

They are just a few of the examples.

Now, before you go on thinking about how I’m the most egotistical jackass you’ve ever met, step back for a second and really think about it.

This isn’t about ego… or being cocky.

It’s about being cool with yourself. And having some “self trust”

So here you go, here’s my ultimate pick up line.

Hi, WE HAVEN’T MET YET, my name’s Brad

Sounds simple, huh?

It is.

Let me tell you why it works.

1. It implies that there is a REASON that the person should know you, or that you should have already met. The curiosity factor creeps in.

2. It’s simple and direct. It’s a strong lead. Plus, simple means you’ll actually DO IT instead of mentally masturbating in the corner trying to think of the best thing to say.

3. It doesn’t convey WHY you’re meeting them so the conversation can go in any direction. And most of the time, the other person will start the convo in a direction, making things easier for you.

4. It’s FEELS powerful to say. It’s not wimpy. It’s a “here I am, ready to take over the world” opener.

Yes, this one little opener IMPLIES THIS MUCH.

And nobody does it.

Where does it work?

Damn near anywhere, but ESPECIALLY in social situations like parties, conventions, networking events, bars, etc.

If you’re into creating an “alpha presence” or getting a “state pump”, this little ditty will help.

I’ll do a video on this next week and show you how to maximize this effect using a few “plugins”.

Stay cool,

Brad

p.s. I’m going to be discontinuing the Inner Circle for now. I’d rather focus on giving you good stuff over on this side so you’ll go invest in Adonis…

You know, I’ve been thinking about something for a little while now and since the last post… it’s been on the top of my mind so I want to get this out in the open before I expand on the whole “just meet people to meet people” scenario.

One of the things that gets under my skin is when people (gurus, teachers, whatever) try to tell you what to do about your situation…

… WHEN THEY DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT YOUR GOALS ARE!

I mean, I hear it ALL the time in business… on how you’re supposed to do certain things to get a certain result… or how you should never use certain tactics… blah, blah, blah.

Or how you should only focus on “targeted leads”.

(Which is bullshit in my opinion…)

You see, if a person doesn’t know what your endgame is… how can they 1) Judge you and your methods and 2) HELP YOU

The answer, they can’t.

For example:

For the guys that tell you that you need to only focus on the women that are most likely to have sex with you… they are ASSUMING that sex is all you want. That’s your endgame.

But what if you want a cool ass girlfriend that your friends like… and your moms (ha… moms) will get along with.

Well, chances are… they aren’t the same person.

And really, if you want a targeted lead on some ass… 1-800-HOOKER1 is about as targeted as you can get, right?

Exactly.

Quite frankly… my strategies in general are all about casting a WIDE NET to find cool people for you to hang out with.

That means both guys and girls.

Cool guys know cool women.

Cool women know cool women.

I mean, lets face it… most people find their girlfriends through other people they know. Like when a girl you work with brings another cool woman to a party… and you hit it off.

So, my strategies basically put this effect ON STEROIDS.

Everything I teach and talk about revolves around how you SET YOURSELF UP before you even open your mouth.

When a woman sees you being friendly and easy going in a bar with other people… don’t you think she’ll be more inclined to chat you up with no force fields or whatever in place.

Of course.

Besides… why waste your whole night firing off on women left and right when you can meet all sorts of cool people that can help make you money, get you new jobs, introduce you to key players, and DO ALL THE WORK FOR YOU by introducing you to cool women.

THAT… my friend… is how you cultivate STATUS among your peers.

THAT… my friend… is the greatest aphrodisiac you can ever get your hands on.

Status simply makes everything easier… PERIOD.

And I know I’m gonna piss some people off by saying this… but if you disagree with me on this… then I KNOW FOR A FACT YOU HAVE NO STATUS!

Actually… I was just hanging out with Brent Smith in LA the other day when we got talking about this very thing.

I made the comment… or actually posed the question:

“How can we explain whats going on here… how we roll? I mean, how can I put this into WORDS that other guys can understand… because quite frankly… I’m thinking that until you’ve experienced it first hand… you’ll NEVER REALLY know how powerful it is (social status, social proof, owning a room, etc).”

And his reply:

“Yeah… you’re right. No one will ever understand… MUCH LESS BELIEVE YOU… until you show them, or they experience it, first hand…”

So before we go any farther… I just wanted to clear that up.

My strategies are in essence about dramatically improving your STATUS in any given situation… both in the short term (that night) and in the long term (networking).

(and that includes Adonis)

Because in all honesty…

… going this route is MUCH, MUCH easier than the path you might be on.

Chat later.

So I’ve been doing quite a bit of traveling lately and one thing that I’ve noticed when I’ve been going out to bars and hitting these out of town parties is a common theme that I want to share with you today.

Approaching women and groups of people in general is EASY… as long as you have the right mentality.

In fact, over the last month… I haven’t been rejected… or blown off… told to go to hell…

… not ONCE.

In fact, you likely won’t believe how easy this is.

You ready?

Here’s the secret:

LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS FOR THE ENCOUNTER

Sounds easy, right?

It is… and it works like gangbusters.

Lately, I’ve really found that if you’re just out meeting cool people, you put A LOT less pressure on yourself.

(This is kinda like “Source of Fun“… but more laid back)

It’s like people (and women) have these little psychic tentacles that can SENSE when you’re out trying to SCORE…

… even if you SUCK AT IT!

BUT, if you can relax and just meet people to meet people, several things start to happen.

1. You put less pressure on yourself to try to get the girl. This is a HUGE KEY because it allows you to relax and pay attention to what’s going on right now. After all, would you have a problem walking up to a woman and asking for the TIME?

Of course you wouldn’t.

You likely wouldn’t even fumble it. In your head, you KNOW she’s not going to tell you to screw off (unless she can sense you’re trying to get in her pants… lol)

Why?

Because it’s NOT A BIG DEAL. You just want to know the time.

2. You put LESS PRESSURE ON HER to make a decision on how fast she needs to prequalify you.

Look, women get hit on A LOT. Single women, married women… all of them.

But, I would venture to say that 99.1% of women would have NO ISSUE meeting a cool, new person… no matter their status. Remember, people are generally bored and like to have cool, low key conversations.

Plus, most guys BAIL when they find out a woman is married or has a boyfriend.

Not me.

I”ve done some of my BEST networking meeting a wife or girlfriend of someone… and that wife or girlfriend telling the guy that I’m a person he needs to meet.

I mean, why bail out or try to overly hit on a woman when she can introduce you to someone that could make you an extra 200k this year?

3. THIS IS THE KILLER ONE. It actually gives YOU a chance to see if she’s (or that group) the type of person that YOU’D like to hang out with.

Think about how this sounds:

You don’t even know her… and you want to sleep with her.

She could be psycho
She could have AIDS
She could be looking for a baby daddy (nothing wrong with that, unless it’s a deal breaker)
She could be a chain smoker
She could be a lesbian.

Look, this person could be COMPLETELY BAD NEWS FOR YOU and because you’ve already determined that you want to sleep with her… YOU’LL NEVER SEE ANY OF THESE BAD DEAL BREAKERS because of a little phenomenon called “diagnosis bias”

Diagnosis bias basically states that once you JUDGE someone… you subconsciously DISREGARD any and all objective data that contradicts the judgment you’ve made on someone. It’s a little like cognitive dissonance… and it REALLY messes with your head.

In fact, someone has to do something that really shakes your frame for you to change your decision about that person.

Research proven.

(Betcha didn’t know about that one. Hell, “diagnosis bias” is REASON ENOUGH not to dig deep too fast)

“So when do you start hitting on her then?” you may ask.

Easy, you use BAIT.

I’ll flesh out and continue all of this on Friday.

Out.

The best thing about not being a self proclaimed “guru” is that I can tell you things about myself without feeling like I’ll lose sales… or that you’ll lose respect for me…

… or whatever.

And in saying that, I’m gonna put something out there that I still need to work on.

I do it all the time.

I wonder why I do it.

And I think I have the answer.

So, what’s my problem you may ask?

APPROVAL SEEKING

Man, I can’t tell you the number of times I’ll make a comment that I don’t need to in order to try to BOOST my worth in another person’s eyes.

I do it MUCH more than you’d think.

I mean, just the other day I made a comment to a guy about how I finished in a certain place in a “contest”… without even trying (to which I thought to myself after I said it, “Damn, that sounded like a douchebag ploy to me… what was I thinking?”)

But, and I could be wrong, but I think that I know why I do it… and maybe you can relate… and it will help you out as well.

Let’s see:

I’m IMPATIENT at times.

And I’m COMPETITIVE as hell.

When you meet a new contact or woman… or whatever… a part of you WANTS the other person to KNOW about your successes, and how you kick ass, etc…

… especially when it’s a “cold” meetup (where the person doesn’t know anything about you).

I mean, let’s face it… we’ve ALL been in situations where a person will treat you a certain way UNTIL they find out that you are “that guy”.

I can’t tell you how many conferences I’ve been to where I meet people, talk for a while, and then when they find out that I’m part of this Adonis Effect project… or the fact that I’ve got over 20,000 followers on Twitter…

… and their attitude COMPLETELY changes.

(which is probably all my fault anyway because I’m such an “underground” guy… and on second thought, did I just do it AGAIN above… TO YOU: LOL)

Hell, I’m not gonna lie. I even try to ENGINEER situations and conversations so that people find out about these things AS SOON AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE because of the difference it makes.

So, now that I’m thinking about it… I’m wondering if what I have… and what you may have (if you’ve dealt with the same things)… isn’t really an APPROVAL SEEKING mechanism at all.

Maybe its just that we KNOW that we need to somehow get it out there… that we need to “frame” ourselves as quickly as possible, so that others take us seriously.

Think about it.

How many times have you met someone… only to find out later that the person you met was some UBER hot shot and you now wish you’d made a better impression, but you didn’t really try because you didn’t KNOW that the person was a big wig.

So you ALMOST treated the person as if they were wasting your time.

Hell, I’ve done it. I’ve been in situations where I’ve been in my own little world… and been so oblivious to the fact that this person in front of you could be the difference in an extra 100k this year.

Well, that’s my thoughts for today.

Is it approval seeking behavior?

Or is it “translation of value” so that you are treated with more respect?

I’m thinking the latter.

Out.

Hey…

Let me give you a perspective of Valentine’s Day from a single woman (or taken woman with a shitty man).

You see, if a woman knows she’s not getting anything for V-Day (and I’m not just talking gifts), EVERYTHING about Valentine’s Day begins to get on her nerves.

Seeing men walking out of stores with flowers…

The V-D commercials on TV and radio…

All the Valentine’s SPAM she gets in her inbox…

It’s like a perpetual NEEDLE poking her over and over again, constantly reminding her that she POSSIBLY sucks.

(And in fact, the quarter of Nov-Feb is like the WORST time for anyone to be single… and I’m sure you know where I’m coming from)

Anyway, back on the ranch… we were talking V-D tactics.

Here’s a hint:

Cool, regular, NON sleazy guys can have a FIELD day with V-D!

There’s one caveat though… and you need to watch out for it.

BITTER ASS WOMEN

You’re gonna run into 2 opposite types of V-D women:

1. Women that are CRAVING attention (ie want the fairy tale) on V-D

2. Women that are angry and bitter. (ie Man-haters)

But here’s the funny part:

You would think that being overly flirting and over the top with your methodology would get you the women on Valentine’s…

… but in my experience, because women want the fairy tale, COUPLED with the fact that men are FIRING OFF on them even more (cause they are single too)…

… it becomes imperative that you remain cool, calm, and collected and be that NON BORING, fun dude that makes her smile.

And you wanna know something else?

Even the tough man haters will soften up for this type of man with consistency.

(and don’t tell anyone I told you this, but if you can be cool and fun enough for her to lower her guard… she’ll be like putty in your hands… no joke… and do NOT use this for “evil”)

Just remember to remind yourself that EVEN WITH V-D, you are the choser.

This is IMPORTANT.

YOU CHOOSE.

YOUR BOUNDARIES

YOUR WORLD

Read that again like 50 times…

I’m out!

Brad

p.s. Read this again and think of V-D as being STD… it’s funny as hell… HAHAHA!

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